The speaker, Mariola, discusses the psychological concept of 'variable rewards' and its powerful effects on human behavior, which can lead to obsession. This principle is used in various fields such as casinos, marketing, and social media to create addiction. Mariola explains how incorporating this concept into one's personality, unintentionally, can make others obsessed with them. She emphasizes the importance of having a mission or goal that is more significant than personal relationships, which naturally leads to providing variable rewards without conscious effort. The speaker advises against deliberately trying to generate variable rewards as it can lead to an unhealthy obsession with the reactions of others. Instead, she suggests focusing on one's path and goals to attract others naturally.
1. The speaker, Mariola, has been studying love and attraction for over a decade.
2. Mariola has developed methods like the "SC Method" to help people improve their social dynamics.
3. The speaker mentions a psychological trick called "variable rewards" that can create obsession.
4. Variable rewards were studied by psychologist Skinner, who used pigeons in his experiments.
5. Skinner found that pigeons became obsessed with a lever that sometimes dispensed food and sometimes didn't.
6. The speaker claims that casinos, betting houses, and social networks use variable rewards to create addiction.
7. Mariola warns that using variable rewards intentionally can lead to becoming obsessed with someone's reaction.
8. The speaker suggests that instead of trying to use variable rewards intentionally, people should focus on their own goals and missions.
9. By being focused on one's own goals, people can generate variable rewards without realizing it.
10. The speaker calls this approach the "superhero effect," where people are too busy with their mission to constantly reward someone.
11. Mariola recommends having a clear purpose and direction in life to become a "winnable winner."
12. The speaker suggests that people should talk to others about what makes them unique and special.
13. Mariola mentions that people who are focused on their goals and missions can create incredible chemistry with others.
14. The speaker claims that having obstacles in love can be beneficial because they can create variable rewards without realizing it.