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The text is a transcript of a video by Patrick Teahan, a therapist and life coach who specializes in childhood trauma recovery. He talks about six common triggers that can activate the inner child of trauma survivors and how to heal them. The triggers are:
- People who are thoughtless or oblivious, which reminds us of our neglectful or narcissistic parents who did not consider our needs or feelings.
- Saying no and mind reading, which reflects our struggle to set boundaries and our expectation that others should know what we are going through without us telling them.
- Having someone be mad at us or being misunderstood, which triggers our shame and fear of abandonment or abuse that we experienced in childhood when we displeased our parents.
- Other people's moods, which makes us hypervigilant and responsible for their emotional state, as we had to do with our inconsistent or volatile parents.
- Ambiguity, which challenges our sense of security and control, as we grew up without a safe home base and had to wait for external validation or relief.
- Feedback, which can be positive, negative or neutral, but all affect us differently depending on how we were praised, criticized or ignored by our parents.
He suggests that the way to heal these triggers is to reparent our inner child from our adult space, to validate our childhood experiences, to develop a deeper relationship with ourselves, and to receive healthy feedback from others. He also invites the viewers to comment on the video and share their thoughts.
Here are the key facts extracted from the text:
1. The speaker is a therapist and life coach specializing in childhood trauma recovery.
2. The speaker identifies six common triggers for childhood trauma survivors.
3. Trigger 6: People who are thoughtless or oblivious can activate feelings of frustration and rage in childhood trauma survivors.
4. Trigger 5: Saying no and mind-reading can be challenging for childhood trauma survivors, who may struggle with setting boundaries and expecting others to read their minds.
5. Trigger 4: Having someone be mad at you or being misunderstood can be a significant trigger for childhood trauma survivors, who may ruminate on what they did wrong and how to fix the situation.
6. Trigger 3: Other people's moods can be highly affecting for childhood trauma survivors, who may feel responsible for managing others' emotions.
7. Trigger 2: Ambiguity, or not knowing what will happen next, can be a significant trigger for childhood trauma survivors, who may struggle with insecurity and uncertainty.
8. Trigger 1: Feedback, whether positive, negative, or neutral, can be triggering for childhood trauma survivors, who may struggle with shame, trust, and intimacy issues.
9. Childhood trauma survivors may struggle with taking compliments or feedback because it can activate shame or feelings of manipulation.
10. Neutral feedback can be particularly challenging for childhood trauma survivors, who may ruminate on what the feedback means and whether they can trust the person giving it.
11. The speaker recommends reparenting the inner child and developing a deeper relationship with oneself to increase feelings of security and trust.
12. The speaker suggests that group work and receiving healthy feedback from others can help childhood trauma survivors work through intimacy and feedback issues.