The video is a part of the "Adult and the Inner Child" series hosted by Patrick Tian, an LSCSW who is both a therapist and a life coach. In this episode, Patrick discusses six common childhood trauma triggers that are not widely discussed. He emphasizes that these triggers are not from a classic PTSD or CPTSD framework, but rather from everyday experiences.
1. **Being Thoughtless or Oblivious**: This trigger is activated when people around us are self-consumed, selfish, or unaware of how their actions affect others. This often reminds us of our own childhood experiences with thoughtless or oblivious parents, which can lead to feelings of rage and frustration.
2. **Saying No and Mind Reading**: This trigger is related to our struggle with the ability to say no, often due to shame and resentment. We expect others to read our minds and understand our struggles, which can lead to resentment when this doesn't happen.
3. **Being Misunderstood or Misinterpreted**: This trigger is rooted in shame and fear of disappointing others or being misunderstood. It is often linked to childhood experiences where we were not seen as children and were expected to be forward-thinking adults.
4. **Other People's Moods**: This trigger is about being hyper-vigilant about other people's moods and feeling responsible for their emotional experiences. This can lead to ruminations about what could have been done or what the person isn't telling us.
5. **Ambiguity**: This trigger is about the fear of uncertainty and not knowing how things will turn out. This can be linked to childhood experiences of waiting for parents to come home from work or school, not knowing their condition, or waiting for their approval or validation.
6. **Feedback**: This trigger is about receiving positive, negative, or neutral feedback. Positive feedback can be triggering due to shame, negative feedback can be triggering if it's unfair, and neutral feedback can be triggering if it doesn't match our internal feelings.
Patrick suggests that the way out of these triggers is to practice saying no from our adult space, re-parent our inner child, and develop a belief system that is rooted and will be okay no matter what. He also encourages viewers to support his work on Patreon and connect with him through his website.
Here are some key facts extracted from the text:
1. The text is a transcript of a video by Patrick Teahan, a therapist and life coach who specializes in childhood trauma recovery.
2. The video is part of a series called "The Adult and the Inner Child" and it covers six common childhood trauma triggers that are not widely discussed.
3. The six triggers are: people who are thoughtless or oblivious, saying no plus mind reading, having someone be mad at you or being misunderstood, other people's moods, ambiguity, and feedback.
4. The triggers are rooted in shame, insecurity, neglect, manipulation, or inconsistency that the trauma survivors experienced in their childhood from their toxic parents or family system.
5. The video offers some examples of how the triggers manifest in daily situations and how they can be healed by re-parenting the inner child and developing a more secure and empowered adult self.