The speaker discusses the concept of agreeableness and disagreeableness in humans, and how these traits can impact various aspects of life, including career success and social interactions. Agreeable individuals, who are often women, are often so accustomed to living for others and finding out what others want that they struggle to identify their own desires. This can be advantageous in some situations, but it can also hinder career advancement. On the other hand, disagreeable individuals, who are often men, are more likely to know what they want and are less likely to be exploited.
The speaker also discusses the concept of 'predatory aggression' in men, where testosterone levels raise the average level of aggression, especially during puberty. This pattern is similar to the spike in creativity among men in the same age range, which starts to decrease around age 25.
The speaker suggests that understanding one's temperament can help in adapting to life's various challenges. It's recommended to find a niche in the environment that corresponds with one's temperament and to work on developing the skills and viewpoints that exist in the space opposite to one's personality. However, the speaker also warns about the potential difficulties of bridging the gap with a partner who is too distant on temperamental variables.
The speaker concludes by emphasizing the importance of understanding one's own temperament and its implications for various aspects of life, including personal relationships and career success.
1. Disagreeable people are more likely to know what they want and how they will achieve it.
2. Agreeable people, especially those who are highly agreeable, often struggle to identify their own desires due to their habit of living for others.
3. There are differences in levels of agreeableness between men and women, with women being more agreeable and men being more disagreeable.
4. Agreeableness is not advantageous when trying to forge a career.
5. The best personality predictor of being imprisoned is low agreeableness, as it makes a person callous.
6. Agreeable people often struggle with conflict and are more likely to be exploited by others.
7. Agreeable people, especially if they are conscientious, often seek 'Assertiveness Training' to learn how to negotiate on their own behalf.
8. Disagreeable people are more likely to be successful in social situations, as they do not let much get in their way.
9. Parents have a responsibility to socialize their children successfully by the age of four, making them socially desirable.
10. Agreeable children often experience rejection and false smiles when they are not disciplined properly, which can negatively impact their mental health and well-being.
11. Disagreeable children often learn simple rules of behavior early on, which allows them to socialize effectively with other children.
12. The period of socialization among children takes place among other children, and being left behind can lead to a lifetime of being alienated from the peer group.
13. Levels of aggression among men increase when they hit puberty and testosterone kicks in, and they are more likely to engage in criminal activity between the ages of 16 and 25.
14. Testosterone levels raise the average level of aggression among men, which is more dominance than aggression.
15. Testosterone levels decrease around age 25 or 26, which is usually when men stop staying up late at night, stop drinking as much, develop a full-time career, and take on burdens and responsibilities associated with a long-term partner and family.
16. Disagreeable people often struggle with generating emotion or motivation for things that do not have an emotional value.
17. When choosing a partner, it is beneficial to try not to choose someone who is too distant on the temperamental variables, as bridging the gap can be challenging.
18. It is useful to know about your temperament so that you can negotiate a space with your partner, and the other way around.
19. Choosing a partner who is exactly the same as you may not provide the benefits of an alternative viewpoint.
20. High and low levels of openness, as well as high and low levels of conscientiousness, can lead to irreconcilable differences in a relationship.