The speaker is a woman who has been married three times and divorced twice, sharing her experiences and insights about relationships. She humorously recalls the song "Tracy and so and so" from her childhood and how it seemed to predict her life's journey. She describes her complicated relationship history, including marriages, divorces, and co-parenting, and jokingly states that she's a "total failure at relationships."
She then shares her perspective on what went wrong in her relationships, attributing her divorces to marrying the wrong people, not bad choices, but choices that didn't align with her own needs and desires. She shares her belief that she married the wrong person three times, except for the last one, herself.
She introduces the concept of "marrying yourself," which she defines as a commitment to oneself. She explains that this involves loving oneself as they are, accepting all aspects of oneself, and forgiving oneself for mistakes. She also emphasizes the importance of being able to love others in the same way one loves oneself.
She shares her personal story and how she learned to love herself, which led to her being able to love others in a new way. She mentions that this new way of loving has transformed every area of her life, including her business, family relationships, and social interactions.
She concludes by sharing her current perspective on relationships, stating that she is focused on being in a relationship, not necessarily a romantic one, and that she has already been in a relationship with herself. She shares a recent first date experience, where she found herself more interested in how she felt in the other person's presence than in whether they liked her. She emphasizes that she is not trying to get security from another person, but that she is in a relationship with them because she is already in a relationship with herself.
1. The speaker's life experiences include growing up in a family with a mother who was a prostitute and an alcoholic, and a father who was a criminal and spent most of her life in prison. She was placed in foster care at the age of three months and was moved around to several foster homes until she was nine years old. [Source: Document(page_content='...', metadata={})]
2. The speaker had three marriages, all of which ended in divorce. She was married to three different men, all of whom are now married to other women. [Source: Document(page_content='...', metadata={})]
3. The speaker has a son who is now 16 years old and is the result of her second marriage. She has a relationship with her third husband on Facebook. [Source: Document(page_content='...', metadata={})]
4. The speaker believes that she married the wrong person three times. She believes that she kept marrying the wrong person, not because she chose bad guys, but because she was trying to fill a void. [Source: Document(page_content='...', metadata={})]
5. The speaker has a new perspective on relationships. She believes in the idea of "marrying yourself". This means entering into a relationship with oneself, committing to oneself fully, and building a relationship with oneself to the point where one realizes they are whole right now. [Source: Document(page_content='...', metadata={})]
6. The speaker believes that the places where one has the biggest challenges in their life are the places where one has the most to give if one does their inner work. [Source: Document(page_content='...', metadata={})]
7. The speaker has vows when she marries herself. These vows include loving herself for richer or for poorer, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, and to have and to hold herself. [Source: Document(page_content='...', metadata={})]
8. The speaker has been on a first date about three months ago and found herself more interested in how she felt about herself than how the other person felt about her. She was excited about the date and felt committed to herself. [Source: Document(page_content='...', metadata={})]