What Representing Men in Divorce Taught Me About Fatherhood | Marilyn York | TEDxUniversityofNevada - Summary

Summary

The speaker, a divorce attorney who has been practicing for over 20 years, shares her personal experiences and insights on fatherhood, family law, and the impact of fatherlessness on children.

She recounts her childhood story of finding a dog turd in an Easter egg, a symbolic representation of life's unexpected twists. This experience, she says, taught her that no matter how hard you work, sometimes you end up with unexpected outcomes.

The speaker emphasizes that her legal experience and personal life have shown her the crucial role fathers play in their children's development. She mentions her own children, who come from two different mothers and three different fathers, and how she has lived her work every day.

She explains that fatherhood is different for men and women, and their influence on their children is crucial. She shares some of the questions her clients are asked by judges during court proceedings, which highlight the importance of a father's role in their children's lives.

The speaker also highlights the impact of fatherlessness on society, using data from the Center for Disease Control, which shows that children from fatherless homes account for 90% of all homeless and runaway kids, 71% of high school dropouts, and 63% of youth suicides.

The speaker urges everyone present to stand if they have been affected by fatherlessness, emphasizing that the fate of nearly half of America's children depends on the pursuit of fair laws and societal changes. She concludes by asking everyone to stand for the 17 million fatherless children in the United States, and do everything they can to help them avoid the same fate.

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1. The speaker is a divorce attorney who has been practicing for over 20 years, starting in Los Angeles but now owning a firm in Nevada since 2001. [Document(page_content="00:02:00.42: I'm a divorce attorney I've been\n00:02:09.30: practicing for over 20 years I began in\n00:02:12.18: Los Angeles but I've owned my firm in\n00:02:13.74: Nevada since 2001 my firm has a\n00:02:17.10: particular subspecialty men's rights my\n00:02:20.94: nine female employees and I specifically\n00:02:23.31: represent men in divorce and custody\n00:02:25.20: battles and guess who runs the business\n00:02:27.72: end of my law firm my father in my\n00:02:32.97: practice we've represented over 2,000\n00:02:35.67: men 650 of whom were fathers my\n00:02:39.72: expertise not only comes from my career\n00:02:41.73: but just as much from my personal life\n00:02:43.95: I'm a mother my children are 23 15 12\n00:02:48.66: and barely 3 they come from 2 different\n00:02:51.63: mothers and 3 different fathers hooker\n00:02:54.00: let me explain let me explain I helped\n00:03:00.12: my ex-husband raise our 23 year old son\n00:03:02.22: whom I didn't birth from age 5 I share\n00:03:04.68: custody of my 15 year old daughter with\n00:03:06.51: the same father my 12 year old son sadly\n00:03:09.54: lost his father to suicide when he was\n00:03:11.37: just seven and my three year old is\n00:03:13.47: being raised at home with his father and\n00:03:15.21: me I literally live my work every day so\n00:03:20.64: what has 20 years of representing men in\n00:03:23.70: family law while living my own reality\n00:03:26.25: show as a wife mother and daughter\n00:03:29.01: taught me about fatherhood Allow me if\n00:03:32.76: you will to start with the second thing\n00:03:34.38: I learned about fatherhood men Pera\n00:03:36.90: differently than women big surprise but\n00:03:39.54: their influence is crucial in the\n00:03:41.52: development of their children do you", metadata={})]

2. The speaker represents men in divorce and custody battles and has represented over 2,000 men, 650 of whom were fathers. [Document(page_content="00:02:32.76: I've represented over 2,000\n00:02:35.67: men 650 of whom were fathers my\n00:02:39.72: expertise not only comes from my career\n00:02:41.73: but just as much from my personal life\n00:02:43.95: I'm a mother my children are 23 15 12\n00:02:4