The video is a discussion on long-distance relationships, presented by Amanda from Psych2Go. The host shares research showing that 75% of college students will be in a long-distance relationship at some point during university. The video outlines seven stages of a long-distance relationship:
1. **Decision**: The first stage is the decision to make long-distance work. This decision is often made when one partner lives far away or has an opportunity or obligation that requires travel.
2. **Parting**: Once both partners agree to pursue a long-distance relationship, they spend every minute together before they're separated. This stage is also where partners set boundaries and make rules to keep the relationship healthy.
3. **Transition**: This stage comes after one or both partners have left, launching the long-distance part of their relationship. Partners might be in a state of denial or too busy with the practicals of moving and adjusting to life to dwell on how the relationship has changed.
4. **Realization**: During this stage, couples begin to process what life is like without their partner. They must face the reality that they can't depend on their partner to be there for them physically anymore.
5. **Jealousy**: Jealousy is a common stage in long-distance relationships. Partners might feel jealous of their partner's new friends or activities.
6. **Doubt**: Relational uncertainty is another typical stage in long-distance relationships. The longer partners go without seeing their partner face to face, the greater their relationship uncertainty becomes.
7. **Validation**: Validation is the last chapter in the book. Partners in a successful long-distance relationship will find themselves returning to the stage again and again.
The host emphasizes that long-distance relationships are high maintenance but very rewarding. They offer an opportunity for partners to step back and re-evaluate their relationship. If they find themselves choosing each other again and again, then their relationship has a strong chance of working out. The host encourages viewers to share their experiences and observations of these stages in long-distance relationships.
1. Research shows an estimated 75% of college students will be in a long-distance relationship at some point during university.
2. Long-distance relationships are anything but easy.
3. Studies have shown higher break up rates in long-distance relationships than in close distance ones.
4. Long-distance relationships can start out when couples meet online or transition from close distance to long-distance relationships.
5. The first chapter in the book of long-distance relationships is the decision to try to make long-distance work.
6. Common factors that cause couples to consider a long distance relationship are travel due to job description or promotions, a partner in the military, education and emergency or family members moving.
7. During the decision stage, partners evaluate whether they want to commit to a long-distance relationship and others decide it's best to simply end their relationship.
8. Once both partners have agreed to pursue a long-distance relationship, so begins the second chapter titled parting.
9. They'll try to spend every minute together before they're separated to make up for the weeks, months or years they'll spend apart.
10. This is also the stage where partner should set boundaries and make rules to keep the relationship healthy when it transitions to long-distance.
11. The transition stage comes after one or both partners have left, launching the long-distance part of their relationship.
12. In this stage, partners might be in a state of denial or simply too busy with the practicals of moving and adjusting to life without their partner to dwell on how the relationship has changed.
13. They'll probably message or call their partner frequently and keep them updated on every little thing, they might still feel like they're still in a close distance relationship.
14. During this stage, couples begin to process what life is like without their partner.
15. They must face the reality that they can't depend on their partner to be there for them physically anymore.
16. The realization stage, while painful also teaches partners to be more independent, have better time management and improve their communication.
17. Jealousy is a common stage in long-distance relationships.
18. In a study 125 U.S. college students who had been or were currently in long-distance relationships, concluded that jealousy was the most commonly experienced negative emotion while they were apart.
19. Relational uncertainty is another typical stage in long-distance relationships.
20. Long-distance partners reported that the longer they went without seeing their partner face to face the greater their relationship uncertainty became.
21. If one or both partners have doubts about the relationship before the transition to long-distance, their relationship has a weaker chance of surviving.
22. Validation is the last chapter in the book.
23. Partners in a successful long distance relationship will find themselves returning to the stage again and again.
24. While the unsuccessful ones might end in stage six, doubt, study show that the long-distance partners are just as satisfied with their relationships as close distance partners when their partner actively listen to them and responded in positive ways.
25. This means although long-distance partners were not face to face, they still felt like their relationship improved after phone or online communication, as long as they could tell their partner supported them.
26. This study points to the importance of