The video discusses the concept of confidence and how people often try to appear confident on the surface but struggle with self-doubt and low self-esteem. The speaker suggests that this is because our subconscious mind is constantly judging us, just like it judges others. To build genuine confidence, one needs to develop a better relationship with their subconscious by understanding their fundamental values and ideals. This can be achieved by taking time to reflect on oneself, identifying contradictions between behavior and values, and making changes to align with one's values. The speaker emphasizes that confidence comes from being authentic and unapologetically oneself, rather than trying to project a fake image.
Here are the key facts extracted from the text:
1. People tend to judge others and size them up as an evolutionary mechanism.
2. When someone appears confident and self-assured, people subconsciously place them higher on their social hierarchy.
3. A person's appearance, voice, and posture can contribute to how others treat them.
4. The subconscious mind accounts for over 90% of a person's overall mental function.
5. The subconscious mind constantly observes and judges a person's thoughts, words, and actions.
6. If a person's behavior contradicts their value system, their subconscious mind may develop a low opinion of themselves.
7. Low self-esteem, low self-confidence, and low self-efficacy can result from a person's subconscious mind perceiving a disconnect between their behavior and value system.
8. Affirmation culture may not be effective in building confidence if a person's behavior does not align with their affirmations.
9. Developing a better relationship with one's subconscious mind can help build confidence.
10. To develop a better relationship with one's subconscious mind, it is necessary to spend time getting to know oneself and one's values.
11. Writing down one's thoughts and feelings can help uncover underlying values and ideals.
12. Seeking the help of a therapist or mental health professional can be beneficial in exploring one's value system and developing a more authentic identity.
13. When a person's conscious and subconscious minds are aligned, they are more likely to feel confident and authentic.
14. A person's behavior and values need to match in order to develop a better opinion of themselves.
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