The speaker discusses the lies that women often tell themselves when involved with a married man. These lies include believing they are the most important person in his life, that he is with his wife out of obligation but with them out of pleasure, that he is jealous of them (when really he is controlling and manipulative), and that if they do everything he wants, he will choose them over his wife.
The speaker argues that these lies are perpetuated by the man's need to justify his behavior and by the woman's desire to believe in a fantasy of perfect love. However, this fantasy is often at odds with reality, and the woman is left waiting for a man who is not committed to her.
The speaker encourages women to stop believing in these lies and to see reality for what it is. They suggest that women need to learn to love themselves and to differentiate between their desires and ideals and the reality of the situation. By doing so, they can avoid wasting time and increase their chances of being truly happy.
Here are the key facts extracted from the text:
1. The speaker is discussing a situation where a man is in a relationship with a woman who is not his wife.
2. The man has a wife and children.
3. The man spends holidays with his wife and not with the other woman.
4. The man demands loyalty from the other woman but does not give it in return.
5. The man has a life with his wife, including shared friends, family, and assets.
6. The woman who is not the wife often believes she is important to the man, but this is not necessarily true.
7. The man may complain about his wife to the other woman, but this is often a way to justify his behavior.
8. The woman who is not the wife may believe that the man will choose her if she does everything he wants, but this is not necessarily true.
9. The speaker believes that people should not deceive themselves about reality and should learn to see things as they are.
10. The speaker suggests that it is not worth wasting time on a relationship that is not working out.
11. The speaker believes that it is difficult to share love and that it is not necessary to do so.
12. The speaker hopes that listeners will learn to see reality and not idealize love.