A woman shares her emotional experience of having a miscarriage after finding out she was pregnant with her third child. She recounts how she and her husband had been planning and preparing for the new addition, but everything changed when she started experiencing flu-like symptoms and heavy bleeding, which led her to the emergency room. There, she was told that she was no longer pregnant and had suffered a miscarriage. The woman expresses her feelings of shock, sadness, and guilt, and how she wishes she had known more about miscarriages and their symptoms before it happened to her. She encourages others to do their research and not be afraid to talk about their experiences, and concludes that although she is still grieving, she is grateful for her two existing children and the support of her loved ones.
Here are the key facts extracted from the text:
1. The speaker was asked daily if they were going to have a third child.
2. The speaker had always been on the fence about having a third child.
3. The speaker had two healthy pregnancies and two healthy kids.
4. The speaker decided to have a third child when they felt financially stable and the kids were at a good age.
5. The speaker took a pregnancy test every day and found out they were pregnant early, probably up to two weeks before the average person would find out.
6. The speaker went to their first doctor's appointment at six weeks of pregnancy.
7. At the doctor's appointment, the speaker had a urine test and an ultrasound, which showed the baby's heartbeat.
8. The speaker told a few close people about the pregnancy, including their friend Alex.
9. The speaker started experiencing flu-like symptoms and bleeding, which got worse over time.
10. The speaker went to the emergency room, where they were told they were no longer pregnant.
11. The speaker was in shock and didn't ask any questions during the process.
12. The speaker felt embarrassed and nervous about bleeding in public.
13. The speaker waited in the emergency room for hours before being seen by a physician's assistant.
14. The speaker was told they had no longer had a heartbeat and was no longer pregnant.
15. The speaker felt sad, stupid, and confused after the miscarriage.
16. The speaker felt like they didn't know what to look for or how to prevent the miscarriage.
17. The speaker thinks there should be more conversation around miscarriage and pregnancy loss.
18. The speaker encourages people to do research and educate themselves about pregnancy and miscarriage.
19. The speaker is at peace with what happened and is grateful for their two healthy kids.
20. The speaker is not ruling out having another child in the future, but is not putting pressure on themselves to do so.